my KINX Checklist

 

HOW TO USE THIS REPORT

We started KINXLIST out of the process of negotiating a contract. "What are your hard limits? soft limits?" "How do you feel about this?" "What about that?" So, we started using a paper checklist, and then we thought ... well, shouldn't this be digital? So, we made a spreadsheet, and finally, KINXLIST was born.

WE FOUND THAT OUR COMMUNICATION IMPROVED DRAMATICALLY.

By talking about specific acts instead of vague ideas or "preferences", we were able to understand each other so much better, and so much faster. Because we were able to negotiate both faster and more clearly, we could stay SAFE, SANE, AND CONSENSUAL... and we could get a contract in place and start playing that much sooner.

SO HERE'S OUR SUGGESTION:

If you have a partner in mind already: Share this report with your partner(s). Talk it over. Start a conversation. Help them understand why you've answered the way you've answered. Just having a hard limit, or an essential need, expressed clearly is a start, but the real question is why. If your partner understands why you've answered the way you have, they'll have a much better understanding of how you can enjoy each other. And then, get their list from them, and do the same thing in reverse.

If you don't have a partner you feel comfortable sharing this with: Self-knowledge is a wonderful thing! Try asking yourself questions. "Why do I feel this way about this act?" "What dose this mean to me?" Your answers can help you in the process of finding an ideal partner to play with, as you explore your potential compatability.

AS ALWAYS, STAY SAFE, AND HAVE FUN!

I identify as a: submissive

My preferred safeword is: Red

HARD LIMITS

I WILL NOT CONSENT to do the following to / for my partner:

Financial Domination (Never Tried)

HARD LIMITS

I WILL NOT CONSENT to have the following done to/for me:

Knife Play (Never Tried)

Asphyxiation / Choking (Never Tried)

Breath control (Never Tried)

Religious scenes (Never Tried)

Cutting (blood play) (Never Tried)

Branding (Never Tried)

SOFT LIMITS

I MAY CONSENT AFTER NEGOTIATION to do the following to/for my partner:

Scratching (Never Tried)

Third Person (M) Submissive to Sub only (Never Tried)

SOFT LIMITS

I MAY CONSENT AFTER NEGOTIATION to have the following done to/for me:

Teabagging (Never Tried)

Penis Sleeves (Never Tried)

Fire Play (Never Tried)

Tattoos (permanent) (Never Tried)

MUST LIMITS

I MUST, AT LEAST SOMETIMES do the following to/for my partner:

Analingus (Never Tried)

Call partner: "Master/Mistress" (Beginner)

Call partner: "Sir/Ma'am/Miss" (Beginner)

Call partner: "Daddy/Mommy" (Never Tried)

Ask/Tell partner: "Can I please ____ ?" (Never Tried)

Ask/Tell partner: "Thank you for ____ ?" (Never Tried)

Serving as maid (Never Tried)

Following orders (Beginner)

Kneeling (Beginner)

Genital Worship (Beginner)

MUST LIMITS

I MUST, AT LEAST SOMETIMES have the following done to/for me:

Dildo - anal (Never Tried)

Anal Vibrator (Never Tried)

Anal plugs (small) (Beginner)

Anal plugs (large) (Tried Once)

Anal plug (public, under clothes) (Beginner)

Tail plug (Never Tried)

Fucking Machine (Never Tried)

Praise / Appreciation (Never Tried)

Shower / Bath (Never Tried)

Wound Care (Never Tried)

Bondage (light) (Beginner)

Bondage (public, under clothing) (Never Tried)

Ropes (Beginner)

Cuffs (leather) (Beginner)

Spanking (Beginner)

Flogging (Never Tried)

Belts (Beginner)

Switches (from branch/plant) (Never Tried)

Humiliation (private) (Never Tried)

Pegging (Tried Once)

Spitting (Never Tried)

Feminization/Sissification (Beginner)

Body Writing (Never Tried)

Pegging (Tried Once)

Milking / Prostate Massage (Never Tried)

Pantyhose/Stockings (Never Tried)

Force sub to Wear Chastity Device (Beginner)

Enemas (Beginner)

Be called: "good girl/boy" (Beginner)

Be called: "bad girl/boy" (Beginner)

Be called: "baby girl/boy" (Never Tried)

Be called: "slut" (Never Tried)

Be called: "whore" (Never Tried)

Be called: "bitch" (Never Tried)

Be asked/told: "Mine" (Beginner)

Orgasm control (Never Tried)

Choose sub's food (Never Tried)

Clothed Dom Nude Sub (Beginner)

Swallowing girlcum (Never Tried)

Urinating on sub (Tried Once)

Dress control in private (Beginner)

Collars (private) (Moderate)

Collars (public) (Beginner)

EXCITING

I'M GENERALLY INTERESTED IN doing to/for my partner:

Vaginal Sex (Moderate)

Oral Sex (Fellatio / Cunnilingus) (Beginner)

Deep Throating (Never Tried)

Teabagging (Never Tried)

Cuddling (Beginner)

Water / Food (Beginner)

Scene debrief / discussion (Never Tried)

Praise / Appreciation (Never Tried)

Sexy clothing (private) (Never Tried)

Sexy clothing (public) (Never Tried)

Public Exposure (Never Tried)

Foot Worship (Never Tried)

Boot / Heel Worship (Never Tried)

Pantyhose/Stockings (Never Tried)

Call partner: "Lord/Lady" (Never Tried)

Call partner: "King/Queen" (Never Tried)

Outdoor scenes (Never Tried)

Secretary (Never Tried)

Asking Permission (Never Tried)

Begging (Never Tried)

Standing in corner (Never Tried)

Learn postures (Never Tried)

Keep a Diary (Never Tried)

Massage (Never Tried)

Watching Porn (Beginner)

Making / Watching erotic videos of sub (Never Tried)

Watching others in person (sex shows) (Never Tried)

Squirting (Never Tried)

Oral cleanup of Dom after sex (Beginner)

Ass to mouth (Never Tried)

Wear Slave Bells (Never Tried)

Threesomes (FFM) (Never Tried)

Servicing a group (gangbang or similar) (Never Tried)

Harem / Reverse Harem (Never Tried)

EXCITING

I'M GENERALLY INTERESTED IN my partner doing to/for me:

Rough Sex / Primal (Never Tried)

Oral Sex (Fellatio / Cunnilingus) (Beginner)

Anal sex (Never Tried)

Solo Masturbation (Moderate)

Fisting (Never Tried)

Double penetration (oral and anal) (Never Tried)

Vibrator on genitals (Never Tried)

Remote Controlled Vibrator (Never Tried)

Anal beads (Never Tried)

Anal hook (Never Tried)

Ben Wa Balls (Never Tried)

Sybian (Never Tried)

Cuddling (Beginner)

Water / Food (Beginner)

Scene debrief / discussion (Never Tried)

Watch Movie (Never Tried)

Abrasion (Never Tried)

Biting (Never Tried)

Wartenburg Wheel (Never Tried)

Clothespins (Never Tried)

Bondage (heavy) (Never Tried)

Immobilisation (Never Tried)

Bondage (multi-day) (Never Tried)

Leather restraint (Never Tried)

Cages (Never Tried)

Chains (Never Tried)

Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage (Never Tried)

Rope body harness (Never Tried)

Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) (Never Tried)

Harnesses (leather) (Never Tried)

Harnesses (rope) (Never Tried)

Cuffs (metal) (Beginner)

Manacles & Irons (Never Tried)

Gags (cloth) (Never Tried)

Gags (panties) (Never Tried)

Gags (rubber) (Tried Once)

Gags (tape) (Beginner)

Gags (phallic) (Tried Once)

Gags (ring) (Tried Once)

Gags (ball) (Tried Once)

Mouth bits (Never Tried)

Suspension (upright) (Never Tried)

Suspension (horizontal) (Never Tried)

Suspension (inverted) (Never Tried)

Strained Position Bondage (Never Tried)

Predicament Bondage (Never Tried)

Single-tail whips (Never Tried)

Canes (Never Tried)

Leather straps (Never Tried)

Riding crops (Never Tried)

Hairbrushes (Beginner)

Leather paddles (Never Tried)

Wooden paddles (Beginner)

Slapping genitals (Never Tried)

Whipping breasts (Never Tried)

Strapping (full body beating) (Never Tried)

Bastinado (foot impact) (Never Tried)

Face slapping (Beginner)

Teasing (Never Tried)

Humiliation (public) (Never Tried)

Verbal humiliation (Never Tried)

Examinations (Never Tried)

Body part size humiliation (Never Tried)

Nipple clips (Never Tried)

Nipple weights (Never Tried)

Nipple suction cups (Never Tried)

Cock and Ball Torture (Never Tried)

Post orgasm torture (Never Tried)

Underwear (Never Tried)

Be called: "cunt" (Never Tried)

Be called: "pet" (Never Tried)

Be called: "little girl/boy" (Never Tried)

Be called: "princess" (Never Tried)

Be called: "dirty little ____" (Never Tried)

Be called: "naughty little ____" (Never Tried)

Be called: "my little ____" (Never Tried)

Be called: "dumb / stupid" (Never Tried)

Be called: "useless/worthless" (Never Tried)

Be called: "pathetic" (Never Tried)

Be asked/told: "Whose (body part) is this?" (Never Tried)

Be asked/told: "Who owns you?" (Never Tried)

Pet Play (treating as pet) (Never Tried)

Lecturing for Misbehaviors (Never Tried)

Age Play (treating as younger) (Never Tried)

Kidnapping (Never Tried)

Interrogation (Never Tried)

Rape (Never Tried)

CNC (Never Tried)

Impregnation / Breeding (Never Tried)

Gang bang (Never Tried)

Initiation rites (Never Tried)

Schoolroom scenes (Never Tried)

Orgasm denial (Never Tried)

Forced orgasms (Never Tried)

Assign Daily Tasks (Never Tried)

Forcing servitude (chores) (Never Tried)

Forcing exercise (Never Tried)

Weight Control (Never Tried)

Restrictive rules on behaviour (Never Tried)

Eye contact restrictions (Never Tried)

Physical contact restriction (Never Tried)

Speech restriction (when, what, to whom) (Beginner)

Washroom restriction (Never Tried)

Forcing to Learn Skills (Never Tried)

Force nudity (private) (Beginner)

Force nudity (around others) (Never Tried)

Exhibitionism (friends) (Never Tried)

Exhibitionism (strangers) (Never Tried)

Watching Porn (Beginner)

Watching others in person (sex shows) (Never Tried)

Voyeurism (your Dom w/ others) (Never Tried)

Leaving Visible Marks (Never Tried)

Swallowing semen (Never Tried)

Forcing to Swallow Urine (Never Tried)

Cum / squirt on partner (Never Tried)

Spit on sub (Never Tried)

Scat / Feces (Never Tried)

Tattoos (temporary) (Never Tried)

Hairstyle control (Never Tried)

Pubic Hairstyle control (Never Tried)

Dress control in public (Never Tried)

Piercings (Beginner)

Non piercing jewelry (Never Tried)

Virtual Collar: FindmyFriends (Never Tried)

Threesomes (MMF) (Never Tried)

Threesomes (MMM) (Never Tried)

Third Person (F) Dominant to Both (Never Tried)

Third Person (M) Dominant to Both (Never Tried)

Orgy (Never Tried)

Cuckolding / Cuckqueaning (Never Tried)

INTRIGUING

I'M CURIOUS ABOUT doing to/for my partner:

69 (Beginner)

Hand jobs / fingering (Beginner)

Foot job (Never Tried)

Titfucking (Never Tried)

Phone sex (Never Tried)

Dildo - vaginal (Never Tried)

Vibrator on genitals (Never Tried)

Anal Vibrator (Never Tried)

Unusual masturbation (Never Tried)

Wearing Masks (Never Tried)

Infantilism (diapers) (Never Tried)

Period Sex (Never Tried)

Lactation (Never Tried)

Leather clothing (Never Tried)

Call partner: "God/Goddess" (Never Tried)

Cosplay (Never Tried)

Praise kink (Never Tried)

Edging (Never Tried)

Perform Erotic Dance (Never Tried)

Model for erotic photos (Never Tried)

Wearing Corsets (Never Tried)

INTRIGUING

I'M CURIOUS ABOUT having my partner do to/for me:

Hand jobs / fingering (Beginner)

Foot job (Never Tried)

Analingus (Never Tried)

Phone sex (Never Tried)

Unrelated talk (Never Tried)

Zapping (e.g. electric fly swatter) (Never Tried)

E-stim (Never Tried)

Figging (Never Tried)

Wax Play (Never Tried)

Silk Scarves (Never Tried)

Hand over mouth (Never Tried)

Mummification / saran wrapping (Never Tried)

Vacuum Bed / Cube (Never Tried)

Straight jackets (Never Tried)

Hair pulling (Never Tried)

Gagging (Never Tried)

Washing mouth out with soap (Never Tried)

Objectification (art, furniture...) (Never Tried)

Wearing Masks (Never Tried)

Renaming (Never Tried)

Leather clothing (Never Tried)

Be called: "toy" (Never Tried)

Be called: "fat" (Never Tried)

Be called: "depraved" (Never Tried)

Cosplay (Never Tried)

Praise kink (Never Tried)

Sleep deprivation (Never Tried)

Blackmail (Never Tried)

Hypnosis (Never Tried)

Slave Auction (Never Tried)

Medical scenes (Never Tried)

Prison scenes (Never Tried)

Forcing masturbation (Never Tried)

Requiring Rituals (Never Tried)

Massage (Never Tried)

Squirting (Never Tried)

Oral cleanup of sub after sex (Never Tried)

Third Person (F) Dominant to Sub only (Never Tried)

Third Person (M) Submissive to Both (Never Tried)

Third Person (M) Dominant to Sub only (Never Tried)

Sharing / Loaning Out (Never Tried)

Swapping with another couple (Never Tried)

TOLERATE

YES, BUT ONLY TO PLEASE MY PARTNER - Doing to/for my partner:

Rough Sex / Primal (Never Tried)

Double penetration (oral and vaginal) (Never Tried)

Double penetration (oral and anal) (Never Tried)

Double penetration (anal and vaginal) (Never Tried)

Triple (vaginal, oral and anal) (Never Tried)

Fur (Never Tried)

Feathers (Never Tried)

Biting (Never Tried)

Wartenburg Wheel (Never Tried)

Riding the horse (Never Tried)

Swallowing semen (Never Tried)

Swallowing girlcum (Never Tried)

Third Person (F) Submissive to Sub only (Never Tried)

TOLERATE

YES, BUT ONLY TO PLEASE MY PARTNER - Having my partner do to/for me:

69 (Beginner)

Deep Throating (Beginner)

Rough Oral, throatfucking / facesitting (Never Tried)

Scratching (Never Tried)

Fur (Never Tried)

Feathers (Never Tried)

Tickling (Never Tried)

Needle Play (Never Tried)

Ice Cubes (Never Tried)

Chemical Play (e.g. icy-hot) (Never Tried)

Sounding (urethral) (Never Tried)

Blindfolds (Never Tried)

Ear Plugs (Never Tried)

Sensory Deprivation (Never Tried)

Full head hoods (Never Tried)

Cutting/tearing off clothes (Never Tried)

Third Person (F) Submissive to Both (Never Tried)